The Influential Nonprofit: Episode 120: Maryanne Dersch: Cultivating Authenticity For Maximum Influence
Welcome criticism as much as praise, both of these are other people’s opinions of us. They get to have their opinions and not everything that people think about you is your business. People will only respond to what you did and say if they care enough to do so.
Don’t put peace on a pedestal. Instead, balance peace and conflict. When you sacrifice the conflict for peace at all costs, we will only end up multiplying and creating more explosive conflicts. Creating space for conflict is the only way to have actual peace.
Release the outcome. You don’t get to decide who likes you and who doesn’t, nor do you get to decide who will support your organization and who won’t. Don’t be attached to the outcome. Stay sovereign, hold your vision, and keep moving.
Adopt neutrality. Look at the world from a 10,000-foot view. Everything is information, none of it is either good or bad. Be open to allowing things to happen. Things are happening for you, not to you. Everything that happens to you is a gift.
When we need praise to feel good about ourselves or need praise to feel like our organization is on track, or we're terrified of criticism because we think it'll derail us, then it has ownership of us.
By sacrificing the conflict, for peace at all costs, we're actually creating more conflict. When you allow for a little conflict, you are actually creating peace.
All I do is I stay sovereign, I stay in action, and I hold my vision and I keep moving. That is releasing the outcome.
ASK FOR AND RECEIVE ALL YOU WANT NEED AND DESERVE WITHOUT FEELING REJECTED, INEFFECTIVE, OR PUSHY.
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